THE REASON BEHIND DOING ANYTHING.......! (SELF MOTIVATION OR EXTERNAL FORCES)

As the title suggests.. 'the reason behind doing anything'.. every one has some intension in their mind before doing anything.
"it is my belief that all behavior is self-centered behavior , and that each of us acts with our individual self-interests uppermost in our minds . Whether we respond to a particular stimulus or not ... depends on how we interpret the self-interest value of responding . If action is perceived as likely to produce a benefit to self , we act.... if action is perceived as unlikely to result in a benefit to self , we do not act ."
i may sound very arrogant for those who think that... no... few people do not carry intensions in their mind before doing anything.... but i strongly object.
again it shows my arrogance but lemme try to typify my belief with a story...
There  were  several  young  boys  who  enjoyed  throwing  rocks  at  the house of a man who lived on the outskirts of town . The old man tried many methods of stopping the boys from throwing rocks at his house . He tried yelling at them . He tried reasoning with them . He even threatened 
to call the police . Nothing seem to work . Finally , in desperation , the man came up with a bold plan . He started paying the boys a dollar each to throw rocks at his house . Then he reduced the payment to twenty-five cents . Although the boys complained , they continued to throw rocks , but with less enthusiasm . Finally , he reduced the payment to a penny each .
Amazingly , the boys stopped entirely , telling the old man that it was no longer worth it to throw rocks at his house ! And they never returned .
The explanation for this occurrence is that the formerly self-motivated  behavior became externally controlled . First , the rock throwing lost its intrinsic pleasure . Second , the reduced external reward was insufficient tomaintain it . 
This implies that ultimately ,when behavior becomes too closely linked with external forces ,self-motivation is lost . By the time we reach adulthood , most of us have been thoroughly socialized to external control through the promise of rewards and the threat of punishment . At this point , self-motivation has become subordinated to potent external forces .




DURGANANDAN SINGH

RAVAN AND KANS

lemme tell u first that this is not my poetry. its actually one which i read on the blog of very respected mr. amitabh bachchan .. but i wanted to put that on my blog... its a short but very  very inspirational... and carries true sense of society and gives the message which really need to be implemented.
here it goes

रावन और कंस

रावन और कंस को

एक दुसरे को गाली देते ,

एक दुसरे पर दांत पीसते ,

एक दुसरे के सामने खड़े होकर ताल ठोंकते

देखकर बहुत खुश न हो

की अच्छा है साले आपस ही में कट मरेंगे .

मसीहाई का दावा नहीं करूँगा ,

पर दुनिया को मैंने जैसा देखा - जाना है ,

दुमुहीं , दुरुखी , दुरंगी,

उससे इतनी मसीहाई तो करना ही चाहूँगा

की रावन और कंस अगर आपस मे लड़ मरेंगे

तो किसी दिन

राम और कृष्ण आपस में लडेंगे....

picture abhi baki hai mere dost...!!!

The Ayesha-Shoaib-Sania drama seems much more exciting than a Bollywood potboiler.There’s love,sex,dhoka and comedy as well. everybody has a past.And everybody deserves to have a great future. if ………………….(a bigger ‘if’ this time!)one is truly,deeply and madly in love with some one,then one should not be judgemental about his past.That’s the beauty of true love.In my opinion if  shoaib had a legal wife already,common sense would suggest that he terminate his first marriage legally and then start a brand new chapter in life.

What I find the funniest in this saga is that while Ayesha,the alleged first wife claims to have gotten pregnant with Shoaib,the cricketer  maintains that she is Maha Apa (elder sister)!

It won’t be an easy trial as both the accused and the victim are being inconsistent in their statements to the media.Every minute,there is a new twist in the already twisted case.However,if the love birds manage to press through the legal battle and all the adversity surrounding it and eventually get married,it will be a huge sigh of relief for their families as they are currently as clueless as we are regarding the wedding which has now become a national issue!

I wonder why the couple in love is in a mad rush to get married.Is there more than meets the eye????
For those  who are in a rush to see the climax of this story,let me say,

Picture abhi baaki hai mere dosth ☺

MULAKAAT ABHI REHNE DIJIYE....!!

नामुमकिन से हैं हालात ....
   अभी रहने दीजिये ....!
 तर्क न कीजिये ,
   मुलाकात अभी रहने दीजिये ...!
गुम  हुआ हूँ मै अभी ,
    इश्क की वादियों में कहीं....
 इन मचलते जज्बात को रहने दीजिये..
तर्क ना कीजिये....
 मुलाकात अभी रहने दीजिये...!!!!